Consoling a Friend 安慰朋友

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About this lesson

我们在这课里要学习﹕

 - 问朋友是不是遇到了什么不顺心的事情

 - 安慰朋友

 - 在美国如何恰当地谈论死亡这个话题

你还将了解美国哀悼死者的文化﹐包括正式的葬礼﹐以及安慰悲恸的家人的一些常见方式

You sound upset

  You sound upset, is something wrong?
  你听上去情绪好像很低落﹐有什么不对么﹖

  Tell me what’s the matter.
  告诉我出什么事了。

  I know something’s wrong, just tell me what’s going on.
  我知道出事了﹐快告诉我到底怎么了。

A shoulder to cry on

  Do you want me to come over?
  你想让我过来么﹖

  Let me know if you need a shoulder to cry on.
  如果你需要人安慰﹐尽管跟我说。

  If you want to talk about it, I’m here.
  如果你想跟人聊聊﹐有我呢。

  Just know that I’m here for you.
  记着﹐我永远支持你。

My grandmother’s sick

  I just found out that my grandmother has cancer.
  我刚刚得知我奶奶得了癌症。

  The doctors said she only has a few months left.
  医生说她只能活几个月了。

  I’m so sorry, that’s terrible.
  我真抱歉﹐这太让人难过了。

  Is there anything I can do to help your family?
  我能为你们家做些什么吗﹖

  I’ll do anything I can to help, just let me know.
  我会尽全力帮忙﹐跟我说说就行。

Have you ever dealt with this?

  My friend’s grandmother is passing away.
  我朋友的奶奶快不行了。

  Have you ever dealt with this situation before?
  你遇到过这种情况么﹖

  Have you ever had a close friend that lost someone?
  你遇到过好朋友失去亲人的情况么﹖

  Do you have any ideas for simple things I can do to help?
  你知道我能做些什么力所能及的事情帮助她们么﹖

I just wanted to be there

  When my boyfriend’s grandmother passed on, I…
  我男朋友的奶奶过世时﹐我…

  …cooked a bunch of his favorite food and surprised him with it.
  做了一大堆她最爱吃的菜﹐让她吃了一惊。

  …gave him a card that I filled out with a thoughtful note.
  送了她一张卡片﹐在上面写满了关心的话。

  …rented his favorite movie and watched it with him.
  租了她最喜欢的电影﹐陪她一起看。

  I just wanted to be there for him, and do whatever he wanted to do.
  我只想陪在她身边﹐做所有她想做的事。

How are you holding up?

  How are you holding up today?
  你今天感觉怎么样﹖

  My grandma’s fading pretty fast.
  我奶奶病情恶化得很快。

  Thankfully she’s not in any pain.
  令人欣慰的是﹐她并没有疼痛。

  I don’t think it will be much longer.
  我估计她撑不了多久了。

Thanks for being there

  My grandma left us this morning.
  我奶奶今天早上走了。

  We’ve already begun the funeral arrangements.
  我们已经开始筹备葬礼了。

  Thank you so much for being there for me and my family.
  真谢谢你对我和我家人的支持。

  I couldn’t ask for a better friend than you.
  没有比你更好的朋友了。

American attitudes towards death

Americans prefer not to speak about death. If they do, they speak about it indirectly, using euphemisms for dying (“pass away,” “expire”), death (“loss”), the deceased (“the departed”) and burial (“laying someone to rest”). Culturally, Americans tend to avoid having frank and open conversations about death, and many think of death abstractly as something “out there.” The majority of Americans believe in life after death, past-lives, reincarnation or some other theory of immortality.

Funerals and burial services

American funerals are typically held a few days after death, often at a funeral home or church. Attendants dress modestly in all black, usually in a dress or suit. Normally clergy recite hymns, Bible passages, or offer other words of comfort; close family members and friends give a “eulogy,” where they recount their (happy) memories with the deceased. In “open-casket” funerals, the body of the deceased can be viewed one last time for attendants to say goodbye, while in “closed casket” funerals the body is placed in a closed coffin and cannot be seen.

After the funeral, a burial service is held at a local cemetery or crematorium to bury the body. The “pallbearers” (close male family or friends of the deceased) carry the casket to the site of burial. Guests sometimes scoop a handful of dirt onto the grave. After the burial, the family and friends gather for a meal together (usually lunch).

Condolences and support

When a loved one dies, Americans show their support and give condolences to grieving family members. Neighbors and friends often make and deliver food to those in mourning (traditionally some type of casserole). In addition, it is customary to send a card to the family to express your sorrow for their loss with a personal hand-written note to offer your sympathy. Friends and relatives may alternatively opt to send flowers to the family, or make donations to a local charity in memory of the deceased.